Updated: Apr 21
I started writing a blog on going against the grain and as I was writing I was thinking that 95% of the world do not go against the grain. So I need to be sympathetic to their feelings. I started writing how its ok to believe college is the only path. I started writing that its ok to only live withing the group that is similar to you. Its ok to sink so deep in your religion you don’t even consider anyone else’s view.
Then I started thinking that I don’t believe any of that! Regardless of people feelings. I do love everyone, and I do respect the path you decide to go down. But I totally believe that if you conform to these views and keep a closed mindset that you limit yourself. You limit your relationships. You limit your life lessons. You limit your opportunities and the most important thing is you limit your potential.
You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain. Refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though everybody is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.
- Mandy Hale
Extreme success only comes from going against the grain. If you have BIG dreams, the only way you can achieve them is to go against the grain. You MUST be different. If you use business success as an example think of all the biggest businesses out there. Apple, Facebook, Microsoft, amazon. All of these businesses started in a garage. Someone made the tough decision to NOT go to college, or to leave their secure 9-5 job to go against the grain for the opportunity to achieve something great.
Lets talk about college for a second. Is college beneficial? Heck yes it is. But we live in the information age. ALL information is on the web for free!! And yes you can earn a living with a formal education, but with self education you can earn a fortune.
Its hard for me to think that you are going to college to learn within the rules of conformity and pay tens of thousands of dollars to do so. Most people don’t use their education for career and are in debt with student loans their entire lives. And again, college teaches you how to live within the rules. They teach you how to be a pawn. They teach you how to stay small.
Now parents, if you are pushing the idea that college is the only route in life, your doing yourself and your child a disservice. You need to understand that you had 18 years to teach your beliefs to your children and if they haven’t already decided that college is the path for them then stop forcing it. Be more of a supportive mentor and they can start to flourish with your help rather than pushing against you and destroying your relationship in the process. Teach your kids that they can achieve whatever they want to achieve and be whatever they want to be. And back it up with supportive parenting.
Up until this point there are two takeaways from this for me. First, that if you want anything significant in life you must go against the grain. If you want to achieve extreme success, you must go against the grain. If you have BIG dreams, you MUST go against the grain. You must choose to be different.
The second thing I want you to take away is that you need to have an open mind. I don’t mind if you go to college. But why did you go to college. Did you go because everyone else in you family went so it was an expectation? Or did you go because it was aligned with YOUR goals and your dreams?
Having an open mind allows you to learn and grow. Hence the reason I’m here. I’m here for personal growth, because I know what it does for me and others. It help my leadership, my parenting, all my relationships. It helps me learn new lessons. It brings me new opportunities and ultimately it can bring extreme success.
Most of the self learning is how people pushed through the rules to become happier and more successful than they ever thought was possible. And success leaves clues, and more importantly extremely successful people want to share their knowledge. They want to share their tricks. They want everyone around them to be happy. The lessons learned when on the path to extreme success usually translates to changing to be a great person. You must learn humility, teamwork, self discipline, self motivation and much much more.
Id recommend to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself a couple questions
First, are you truly happy?
Are you living your true life?
What are your dreams?
When its just you and yourself looking in the mirror you know where you are at. You know if your happy. You know if your living the life you were meant to live.
At the very least going against the grain brings you new experiences, new life lessons, new relationships and the most important thing, a new perspective. Then you can decide for yourself what path you should take.
Take this blog and make the change today to become the best version of yourself. Thank you for listening to another mission self improvement podcast.
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